The mommune  -- like a marriage, but better

Divorced single moms find that living together helps both moms and kids overcome the difficulties of the early post-separation period. 

Claudia Ciobanu
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Why this story matters:

The first days after a divorce are filled with difficulties that only people in the same situation can fully fathom: worries about the kids and how they are coping, ongoing bickering with the ex, and even readjusting to flying solo.

Women are usually slower than men to jump into the dating ring (especially if they have kids) -- but this doesn't mean they don't need just as much support and companionship. And now a group of women in the UK have recently stumbled on a possible solution: solidarity among women in the same situation. In this case, deciding to live together and share domestic responsibilities.

“Very quickly it felt as if we were building a different family unit,” one of the women said. “It was based on sharing, and supporting each other. That’s what really makes a family.

There was a sense of there being a plan. It didn’t feel as if there was a big gap, as if we needed someone else here.”

This radical solution also offered their kids the possibility to connect with peers in the same situation. 

Details from the story:

  • Two newly single moms with kids decided to live together in London -- one was lonely in her apartment and the other one needed a home. A third mom later joined with her kids -- for the weekends and dinners during the week. 
  • They created what in the U.S. is called a "mommune", a play on the word "commune" -- where people not from the same family decide to live together. 
  • The woman said they all became a family. The mothers felt less lonely, and they could share household chores. The kids could connected to one another as they realized they were going through the same experience. 
  • "Just having each other’s support actually gave us the emotional space to be better parents.”
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