A widow with two children tries online dating

A 35-year-old Slovak woman with two sons attending elementary school tried to find a new partner online. For four months, she kept track of men's reactions to her situation.

Ria Gehrerová
Ria Gehrerová Denník N, Slovakia
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Why this story matters:

How do men perceive a 35-year-old widow with two sons who wants to find a new partner? 

In the article and podcast recommended below, a Slovak woman (who wants to remain anonymous) discusses her four months of online and face-to-face dating.

At first she was afraid to start meeting new men again and thought that the fact she is a young widow would discourage many suitors. She was also concerned that having two children would be considered a liability by most.

Unfortunately, she was right -- several men were condescending to her because of her circumstances.

However, thankfully, #NotAllMen. Even though she did not find a partner during these four months of online dating, she did befriend men who understood her situation.

Some men she encountered during her attempt at online dating:

  • A "savior" who perceived her as a woman in distress who needed to be saved.
  • An "amateur psychologist" who tried to analyze the psychological burden caused by the death of her husband.
  • A man who told her she should be happy someone wanted to date her at all and that she should not be picky.
  • A man who became aggressive when she disagreed with his theories about her life.
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